Surviving Bullies Project

Our Top 3 Book Picks

Chimpanzee Politics: Power and Sex among Apes by Frans de Waal—provides phenomenal insight into basic human needs and behaviors.

Fast Girls: Teenage Tribes and the Myth of the Slut by Emily White—examines the mystique of the “high school slut” and why males and females alike are fascinated by her.

Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman—a parent’s guide to understanding the nature of female relationships and the power of the female clique.

Academic Research

And Words Can Hurt Forever by James Garbarino and Ellen deLara—the authors interview countless young adults to discern their line of thinking regarding bullying, and their strategies for dealing with it.

Bullying and Teasing: Social Power in Children’s Groups
Gayle L. Macklem—discusses how bullying can affect a child’s academic performance, school climate, and can ultimately lead to school violence.  Macklem suggests concrete ways of promoting change in school environment and offers tips on how individuals can deal with bullying.

Bullying Behavior
by Geffner, Loring, and Young—includes copious research on bullying in the United States.

Bullying in American Schools Schools by Dorothy L. Espelage and Susan M. Swearer—a comprehensive compilation of research on bullying in schools across the United States.

New Perspectives on Bullying by Ken Rigby—examines bullying in different settings (schools, the home, prison, workplaces, sporting arenas) and provides tips on how to reduce the bullying.

Preventing Violence by James Gilligan—Gilligan suggests treating violence like a public health problem, and proposes measures on how best to prevent it.

The Psychology of Group Aggression by Arnold P. Goldstein—considers the group dynamic of aggression, and offers management and intervention techniques.

Raising Children in a Socially Toxic Environment by James Garbarino—examines school violence as one of the many malignancies facing children today.

Anthropological Research

The Origin of Species
by Charles Darwin—explains the origin of species and how species change through the process of natural selection.

Our Inner Ape
by Frans de Waal—Man’s brutal instincts are often paralleled to the chimpanzee, but de Waal asserts that perhaps we share some of our noblest qualities—such as generosity, kindness, and altruism—with the conciliatory bonobo.

Through a Window
by Jane Goodall—a provocative book about animal behavior and the roots of human behavior.

The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris—Author Morris ties man back to the animal kingdom, and explains how our most basic behavior is deeply embedded in our primate roots.

Must-Reads for Parents

Best Friends, Worst Enemies by Michael Thompson and Catherine O’Neill Grace—helps parents understand the drama of childhood relationships.

Fast Girls: Teenage Tribes and the Myth of the Slut by Emily White—examines the mystique of the “high school slut” and why males and females alike are fascinated by her.

Lost Boys by James Garbarino—examines the terrible trend of school massacres, and why young troubled boys choose these violent forms of expression.

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons—contains real-life stories from girls about the hidden culture of girls’ aggression in schools.

The Primal Teen by Barbara Strauch—discusses the physical nature of adolescent “growing pains”.

Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman—a parent’s guide to understanding the nature of female relationships and the power of the female clique.

Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson—the authors are two child psychologists who discuss the emotional training and emotional miseducation of boys.

Raising Their Voices by Lyn Mikel Brown—middle school and high school girls speak about why they adopt certain gender expectations and resist others.

Must-Reads for Young Adults and Kids

Fast Girls: Teenage Tribes and the Myth of the Slut by Emily White—examines the mystique of the “high school slut” and why males and females alike are fascinated by her.

Just Kidding by Trudy Ludwig—This picture books takes a look at emotional bullying among boys and helps young readers understand when teasing is no laughing matter.

The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts: How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along by Naomi Drew—provides the reader with practical ways of handling and managing conflict.

My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig— A powerful story about a girl who is emotionally bullied by her friend. The picture book also includes helpful tips, discussion dquestions and additional resources for parents, educators and counseling professionals.

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons—contains real-life stories from girls about the hidden culture of girls’ aggression in schools.

Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy by Rachel Simmons—girls share their own experiences with being bullied and bullying others.

Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher—adolescent girls speak candidly about the issues facing them today, from depression to eating disorders to sexual harassment to suicide attempts.

Stick Up for Yourself : Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power & Positive Self-Esteem by Kaufman, Raphael, and Espeland—provides the reader with practical tools for self-empowerment.

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